'Boomerang' kids putting parents' retirement at risk

'Boomerang' kids putting parents' retirement at risk
Thirty-five percent of parents with adult children living at home have compromised their own savings or long-term goals, like retirement or housing, to financially help their kids, a Thrivent study shows.
MAY 25, 2022

The kids are alright. Their parents, however, may not be.

A survey released this week by asset manager Thrivent revealed that 35% of parents with adult children living at home have compromised their own savings or long-term goals, like retirement or housing, to assist their children financially. Additionally, the study showed 26% of parents were unable to pay off debt or save for short-term goals, like vacations, as a result of supporting a so-called “boomerang kid.”

As to what’s driving those kids back to their parents’ nests, well, those forces are what one might expect in today’s highly inflationary market. Parents polled in the study said rising rent and home prices (33%) and needing financial support after graduation (26%) were the main drivers of their adult children moving back home. The survey polled approximately 500 parents and 700 adult children between April 30 and May 3.

Max Wasserman, founder of Northbrook Illinois-based investment manager Miramar Capital, applauds the fact that parents want to support their children in adulthood, seeing it as a familial responsibility. However, he warns that they shouldn't tap into their retirement accounts to do so.

“Parents have a fixed and relatively limited time frame until retirement, while their children have a longer runway. If the market takes a hit, then the parents don’t have nearly as much time to recover as their kids,” Wasserman said, adding that parents “are not only living longer in retirement, but they are spending more.”  

MOMMY'S ALRIGHT, DADDY'S ALRIGHT, WE'RE ALL ALRIGHT

Not that the kids are thrilled about moving back in with mom and dad, of course.

Of the adult children who moved back in with their parents, 33% surveyed say the reason is because they are not financially independent and cannot live on their own yet and 28% are trying to save money for a home purchase.

Interestingly, the big disconnect between the generations is how adult children view their parents’ finances. Or whether they can view them at all.

The survey found that more than 50% of adult children think their parents are financially equipped to support their living at home for an extended period of time. That’s particularly curious because 70% of parents surveyed aren’t discussing money management or setting financial expectations with their adult children.

Adding it all up, parents aren't informing their adult children about the entirety of their financial situations even as their boomerang offspring overestimate how much financial support they’ll receive and for how long. This failure to communicate has the potential to wreck not only retirement plans, but relationships as well.

Boone Jackson, a Thrivent financial consultant located in St. Louis, Missouri, suggests the best way to guarantee family harmony in such a situation is to have “a mutually agreed-upon plan.”

"Instead of enabling kids with a free ride, you can instead be an advocate and a mentor by teaching them how to foster their own financial growth," Jackson said. "For example, you can help with research on getting loans, instead of taking out the loan on their behalf."

Latest News

Ric Edelman, ex-Orion CEO Eric Clarke join board for TaxStatus
Ric Edelman, ex-Orion CEO Eric Clarke join board for TaxStatus

Two longtime RIA industry figures have joined the board of directors at TaxStatus, a fintech company that garners thousands of IRS data points on clients to share with advisors for improved financial planning oversight and time savings.

Andy Sieg faces internal HR investigation into conduct at Citigroup: Report
Andy Sieg faces internal HR investigation into conduct at Citigroup: Report

Sieg, 58, was head of Merrill Wealth Management, left in 2023 and returned that September to Citigroup, where he worked before being hired by Merrill Lynch in 2009.

Advisor moves: Wells Fargo FiNet, LPL Financial, Raymond James, Janney, Ameriprise
Advisor moves: Wells Fargo FiNet, LPL Financial, Raymond James, Janney, Ameriprise

Firms announce new recruits including wirehouse breakaways.

Ashton Thomas-linked Amplify debuts QuantumRisk to help RIAs weather market shocks
Ashton Thomas-linked Amplify debuts QuantumRisk to help RIAs weather market shocks

"QuantumRisk, by design, recognizes that these so-called "impossible" events actually happen, and it accounts for them in a way that advisors can see and plan for," Dr. Ron Piccinini told InvestmentNews.

Turning conversations into clients: Attract prospects and gain new clients with these five strategies
Turning conversations into clients: Attract prospects and gain new clients with these five strategies

Advisors who invest time and energy on vital projects for their practice could still be missing growth opportunities – unless they get serious about client-facing activities.

SPONSORED How advisors can build for high-net-worth complexity

Orion's Tom Wilson on delivering coordinated, high-touch service in a world where returns alone no longer set you apart.

SPONSORED RILAs bring stability, growth during volatile markets

Barely a decade old, registered index-linked annuities have quickly surged in popularity, thanks to their unique blend of protection and growth potential—an appealing option for investors looking to chart a steadier course through today's choppy market waters, says Myles Lambert, Brighthouse Financial.